I recently heard two stories which made me think again about communication skills.
In each case, the information delivered to the patient (in both cases friends of mine) was entirely correct. The problem was not in the decision making, the outcome, the skill, accuracy or dedication of the professional discussing their case, but in the way it was discussed.
In one, a friend who had been seeing a specialist for really very regular follow up saw a new doctor. The new doctor had read the notes, seen the progress, and – it felt to my friend – made a decision on how the consultation was going to go, and ended up discharging him. This was all despite having never met the patient, not heard the background, having no idea of the context of the illness – but the numbers looked good, the progress was clear and therefore the decision was an easy one.
The second was a friend who, on remarking how lucky they had been was told in no incertain terms that acutally they weren’t lucky that the illness had not had such severe effects on them, but really that they had been lucky this particular doctor had been around to help them – as it was really their intervention which turned a dire situation into one which has become far more stable and manageable. Again, this may well be true, but the experience left the friend feeling somewhat bruised by the encounter – especially as all of the previous consultations had been painted in a positive light, and that the disease was always manageable.
So what am I to learn from these?
Well, firstly that context matters – whenever you are going to deliver information to someone – especially when that someone is vulnerable, then tact is still required to determine what level of knowledge is appropriate, and how explicit it is possible to be without overloading someone. This may sound paternalistic, but part of communicating a message is making it understandable. All at once is fine for some people, but with many, realisation and recognition of a serious illness or problem is a stepwise process.
The other thing is that communication skills matter. Paying attention to the participants in a consultation – appreciating where they are coming from, and what experiences they have been having are hugely important. As we move more and more to efficient models of care, we have to ensure that we, as doctors, and other heatlhcare professionals do not allow ourselves to be caught up entirely in the “production line” and that we retain the important one-on-one relationships that are so important in medicine.
Both of my friends were really quite happy with their care – and the decisions about them and the information they received were absolutely correct. The problem lay in how they were told – without real care or compassion.
Your decision might be the correct one, the outcome may have been perfect, but patients are humans, not statistics – and humans have feelings – we sometimes need to remember to tread lightly, no matter how bad a day we are having.